Relationship Counselling Cambridge offers a way to develop insight and self-knowledge of yourself and your partner, and the possibility of improving close relationships. The therapeutic space I provide enables clients to feel safe enough to engage with reflexive thoughts on their experiences, and a secure base for their emotional worlds to be explored, thus moving toward realistic attitudes towards the future.
As well as an undergraduate degree in psychology, I have specialist postgraduate training in psychology and relationship therapy. I have nearly 20 years of experience working with couples and individuals, in my private practice and also with Relate Cambridge, where I was Supervisor of Clinical Practice for 4 years.
Most adults look for a committed relationship to grow and develop, and share the journey of life with a loved and trusted companion. Relationship counselling recognizes that whilst reaching out for a committed relationship, many people find them very difficult to achieve, but examining the interactions and balance between the partners can lead to insights to resolve difficult issues and lead to positive, creative outcomes.
Sometimes it can be more comfortable to engage with issues on an individual basis, and I am happy to see couples or individuals.
If a decision is made to end the relationship, counselling can support both individuals to minimize hurt and enable effective continuing roles to be adopted, which is particularly important when children are involved.
During a long relationship, a series of important decisions and turning points are likely to be confronted. For example, is 'marriage' necessary (which might mean different things to each partner), deciding whether or when to have children, adjusting to pregnancy and children, health or work-related issues, boredom and attraction to other people, sexual issues, and problems of ageing. These issues and the possible conflicts they might create can be examined in a safe, confidential environment and the meanings behind each perspective can be explored, offering the possibility of growth and the ability to compromise.
If communication is difficult, issues can become a constant round of unresolved arguments: in counselling, we can explore the arguments and look for reasons and ways to resolve them.
Counselling helps you take time out from your situation and engage with underlying issues which may be creating unhelpful patterns of interaction. Talking about beliefs and ways of being developed from childhood and adolescence experiences may enable you to think about what you can do to change your situation for the better. Some expected benefits can be:
I am now focusing on seeing clients in my private practice, which I have been running for nineteen years.
I was the Supervisor of Clinical Practice at Cambridge Relate from September 2005 to October 2009. I have experience of counselling at an alcohol harm minimization agency, and have also taught psychology and counselling at the Cambridge Regional College and Hills Road Sixth Form College.
My qualifications are:
I am a registered graduate member of the British Psychological Society and an accredited member of the British Association of Counselling and Psychotherapy. I am bound by their Ethical Frameworks, and subject to their professional conduct procedures.
No. Relationship counselling deals with the present, past and future relationships and I see couples and individuals over 18, whatever their gender, race, sexual orientation or marital status.
In general, a baseline of six sessions is a good guideline. The first session is more of an assessment when background information will be taken, and the reasons for seeking counselling will be discussed. If you feel comfortable with the process, the same day and time will be available for you to attend each week. During the sixth session, we will look at what has been achieved and where you feel you are with the process: sometimes the six sessions are sufficient, sometimes more sessions seem a good idea. No pressure will be exerted: it is for you to decide whether to continue further.
I charge £70 for each session of one hour, which can be paid online or I have card facilities in my counselling room.
The sessions are completely confidential, and nothing is revealed without your specific consent. All notes of the sessions are held without identifying information, and all files are kept in a locked cabinet. All counsellors have supervisors to discuss cases, but names are never used. However, breaching confidentiality would be considered if I felt there was a danger of harm coming to you or someone else, particularly a child.
Yes, I am happy to supervise counsellors privately. I also have experience in leading supervision groups and would be happy to discuss forming a supervision group of private counsellors.
I charge 50 pounds for one hour's supervision, with a reduced rate of 45 pounds for trainee counsellors.